My friends often laugh at me.
When I discuss what I plan to do, I often remark that I want to do x y or z because I know I will be good at it.
More often than that not I also say I am already brilliant at the skills which are required to be successful in this particular field, and that this will immediately put me ahead of others doing this already.
Only recently I heard myself saying this to a friend about doing more video in my business, and I realised how often this is my attitude internally – and how important it has been to my own development over the years.
You are probably reading this and thinking what an arrogant idiot .. and maybe if I heard someone else saying this I would be thinking the same thing.
But having an unshakable core belief in yourself is not arrogance.
Arrogance is a distain for others. Arrogance looks down upon them as if they are beneath you. And arrogance is also often a false confidence in your own ability.
I am a humble man in many ways. I learn a fantastic amount from those around me – often people who don’t realise how brilliant they are impart something which makes a difference to me personally – and I often tell people this too.
Don’t let the fear of being perceived as arrogant rob you of your own positivity.
I have changed career several times, as one got stale and another appealed. And through these changes I have often had to challenge myself to start again somewhere else. I think perhaps this has trained this attitude into me, but I think I had a measure of it already.
This wasn’t always the case. As a young man I was angry and scared of challenge. I learned my current positive attitude, and I am so glad that I did.
My take on this is simple. If you start with an understanding of what you are good at and develop your business and your life in line with those strengths, you can be more sure of the success you will achieve trying new things.
But much more than that ..
To learn to do anything new, you have to start with a positive attitude. Your first few steps might be utterly awful, and this inbuilt confidence will help you rise above these mistakes and learn from them.
If you start something new already convinced that you won’t be able to do it – you won’t. This sounds obvious, but this is the approach of many people – and so many people fail even before they begin, because of this barrier they effectively place in front of themselves.
How do you manufacture this state of confidence ? How do you put yourself on this positive train?
First, understand what you are good at. Take a few moments to analyse your own life and identify these things in yourself. It’s important to do this as if you are someone else looking in – get a really good external view of yourself – perhaps based on what others tell you, but more than this – how you understand yourself.
After you’ve done this, and truly understand your talents – when looking at your business, filter every opportunity you come across with this understanding. So you are focused on your strengths – or areas which you think are those you can develop based on your core skills.
Maybe your analysis, and your own preferred business model will throw up some areas you lack in terms of skill. Recognising this is fantastic. You are the biggest asset your business has, and to develop these skills you first need to recognise their importance.
But regardless of whether you are good at something or not, whether you are learning something from scratch – or if you are making every mistake in the book as you learn how to do something well … you can always go into new learning experiences with a positive, can-do attitude.
To develop your own internal confidence learn to listen to what you are telling yourself internally – often this is subconscious and barely noticeable at first.
But like a dripping tap it has a growing impact far beyond what we might realise. This dripping tap is a reflection of you – it’s what you really think of yourself, and recognising this can be unsettling at first. But this internal voice is not you – it is simply a collection of all the times people have told you that you can’t do this, or you’re not good at that.
You can stop your subconscious dripping negativity into your daily life through consciously telling yourself positive things – do it out loud, and mean it. In time your subconscious will catch up with where your conscious mind has got to.
Because ultimately .. if you don’t blow your own trumpet – don’t expect that others will do it for you.
Or as a weighty teacher of mine years ago, shouted at me across the classroom once … “Don’t hide your light under a bushel boy!”